What you cannot change? The guy on the throne, man. The King of Wands is large and in charge, and he’s not moving an inch. He’s also passionately attached to his way of looking at the world. You may have liked that spirit and fire, once upon a time. Just remember, he’s the same guy he’s always been, even when you’re not on the same side of the table as he is.
In short, what you cannot change is what is in someone’s heart. Your own heart? A friend or foe’s? Whomever we’re talking, it’s a constant. What lights this person’s fire, what their spirit is about, don’t expect to budge an inch.
Maybe that’s a good thing, maybe it’s sad. But knowing that, probably helpful. I’m not sure how you may use that insight during the day, but if you figure it out, let me know!
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And I repeat “Are you F***ING kidding me?!?!?!” It’s a daily topic of discussion LMAO.
Last night I was watching a show called Banshee. There was a conversation between two characters and the main character, who is very flawed, says “I think we are who we are and even if we want we never really change”. The other person replies “I like to think we “evolve” into the best of who we are”.
I’m good with that, as long as we KNOW we need to evolve. But that’s another card I’m sure. Love you sweet pink haired lady
Love ya right back! ♥
Interesting!
I’m not budging.
In the last five weeks, I have had my husband arrested for Domestic Violence, forced to allow him back in the house after the 72 hour hold was up since the judge wouldn’t extend it, he broke the restraining order because he “got bored” waiting for the officer to pick him up so the cops would be here when he got back, moved his drunk ass out of the house, refuse to do anything for him or even speak to him, got stuck with two months of bills at the house because he’s a liar, have been broke for three weeks, with friends bringing us basic food to keep us going, and a very close friend of mine with too big a heart has been checking on him to be sure he is okay. I personally don’t care if he’s okay, and I told my friend that this morning when they stopped by. 25 years, and a second chance to have his family intact, and this old woman is DONE.
Court coming up on the 24th, and I meet with the DA on the 21st. I can’t change him – although he took a brave, strong, vibrant young woman and basically destroyed my confidence, and my son, for many years (the Boy has wised up) – but I am going to tell the DA what we’ve been through. Complete with photos of the piles of bags full of empty booze cans/bottles and the countless empty cardboard beer cases…and then I’m going to tell them the best thing that could happen to him is for the court to send him into treatment.
If they do that, fine. He’ll just go back to drinking himself to death in his apartment when he gets out, but that’s okay. I just don’t want him to get out of this with a slap on the wrist. Whatever it is, it is.
And it’s not my problem anymore. At all.
He is a user. He uses people to take care of him, drive him places, and clean up after him, while
Hugs, Kristine!