I’ve spent damn near a lifetime separating out what other people think of me from what I think of myself. Most days, it’s pretty automatic now, although occasionally I’ll run something that strikes a sore spot.
It took me a very long time to realize unless I agree at least a little bit with any assertion, it doesn’t impact me. If there’s no foothold inside me already, I cannot be touched.
The root of any emotional reaction isn’t from an outside stimulus. It’s internal. Keep that in mind the coming week…
Next Week in Tarot
For the weekly outlook, we have the Queen of Swords paired with advice from the Four of Wands using the Star Tarot (which I may or may not be slightly obsessed with at this point).
Now, I don’t read the Queen of Swords as “negative” per se, although she’s not especially warm and fuzzy, either. She is focused and precise, though. She cuts through whatever stands in her way and some would no doubt describe her as cold.
A “Queen of Swords week” would have facts surfacing, calculations made and some options eliminated. She excels in clarification, honing in on a particular course or outcome. Also, understand none of the Queen’s actions are actually personal regardless of how it may feel. This queen doesn’t operate that way. The Queen of Swords is all about the end game. Her vision of the end game will match her idea of the greater good. But the how-to part of her game puts emphasis on the bigger picture, not the individual components.
In terms of advice, the Four of Wands came in reversed for me (set upright for the picture). I see this as folks potentially feeling disrupted by what they see and hear around them.
Your job–should you choose to accept it–is to create a safe haven for yourself ANYWAY. Regardless of what happens in the outside world, you can foster an internal sense of stability, safety, and comfort for yourself. This is much easier when we remind ourselves such feelings are internal, not externally generated.
[bctt tweet=”Nobody else gets to write YOUR story.” username=”goddess_dix”]
It’s true, events spill over from outside yourself that may impact you. But we give others way too much control over (and credit for) how we feel. We act as if there is nothing we can do about our reactions to anything when in fact, the opposite is true. How you feel about anything is very closely tied to how you choose to think about it.
Others can and will tell whatever story they see fit. But for it to become YOUR story, you have to cooperate by believing it.
Do you feel like have a handle on your own story?
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