“I feel no judgment coming from you.” That’s a comment I get frequently from clients, and they’re absolutely right. I may not agree with particular choices, and I absolutely will cringe if I see a person suffering because of their choices, but I will NOT judge an individual’s worth based on those choices. There’s good reason.
Judgment is ruled by Pluto. Coming right between the Sun and The World, it calls for an accounting, when the score is tallied and the bill is due. Inverted, t’s not a question that we, personally need to judge.
I am well acquainted with judgment, mostly because I grew up immersed! From the outside world, I felt judged for my family’s separatist, apocalyptic religious beliefs. From my family, I felt judged for my decision to abandon said religious beliefs. At times, I’ve judged myself as lacking for my inability to reconcile the two. So it’s a concept with which I’m intimately familiar, many years on a first-name basis.
Here’s the thing: while I advise my clients, give them whatever insight and feedback I can yank out of the ether and personal experience, I do NOT make another’s decisions for them.
I paid very dearly to be in charge of my own life, losing relationships with people I love in the process. My experience has left me to see self-determination as SACRED, a responsibility more than a right.
I don’t need anybody else’s Karma, man! I’ve got my hands full with my own. And I have no idea what path someone else is on, or why they are the way they are. Maybe it’s their lessons. Maybe they volunteered to come down here and be a massive ass to serve as a teacher. (God knows I’ve learned a lot from that crowd. Haven’t you?) Maybe it’s leading up to something bigger.
I don’t need judgment. I don’t need to project my own right or wrong on anyone else. If I don’t like someone’s behavior, energy, or choices, if I find it bothersome or upsetting or disruptive, I extract it from my life to the fullest of my capacity.
Sure, I may speak out about values I hold dear, or try to counter ugliness and cruelty with kindness and love when the opportunity presents. I will detach in a New York minute from anyone or anything that creates unnecessary pain and drama in my life. That’s my right! But I do not need to condemn the person behaving that way anymore. It’s not my right and not my responsibility. I have faith, ALL energy goes exactly where it needs to go. My job is to direct my own for the greatest good.
How do you feel about judging others?
|Shadowscapes Tarot |
by Stephanie Pui-Mun Law
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