“You would do well to get over caring what other people think about you.” I was talking to one of my Tarot peeps recently when I gave this advice.
I know, I know. It’s definitely easier said than done.
But think about when this comes up, okay? We don’t need this sort of reassurance unless we’re shakey. If you’re confident already, there is no drive to find the outside confirmation. You just know. And in terms of stability, “just knowing” is the best place to find oneself.
On the other hand, when someone is unsure on some level, it begins to feel important–even vital–to get all the people to sign on. Putting aside the fact that getting mass adoption for any vision is pretty much a physical impossibility, the underlying question is even more compelling: do you really want to depend on others for stability? Because if you need the agreement, that’s exactly what you’re doing.
Of course, I love to take people along for the ride when I find something that works for me. I value being of service and it means a lot to me that sometimes, my thoughts or perspectives are useful to others. BUT that doesn’t mean I need the approval to feel okay. I also don’t advise looking to be of service directly until you’re at a point you’re comfortable when people ignore your input or just flat out disagree. Otherwise, you’re still kind of screwed.
I aim for a very self-contained stability. That’s the only way to be unflappable, you know? That idea is right up there with looking to the conditions around me to decide if I’m happy or not. There is just no point in that unless I want to be at the mercy of whatever I happen to look at. Not for me! It can be done internally. That’s the only way to have stability. So I’d suggest you reach for that. And next week? You’ll probably get a chance to practice.
Next Week in Tarot
This week, the forecast is coming in as the Four of Wands reversed, with advice from the Nine of Wands. This is the lovely Star Tarot deck.
Expect the general psychic weather to be unsettled. People may not be feeling safe or at peace; there’s a sense of waiting for the other shoe to drop. Maybe it’s you or maybe it’s just other folks, but there is a definite sense of unrest here.
In terms of advice? Fear and worry are contagious. Don’t catch it! Stand your ground. Tired or not, look to remain centered and sane, okay? Assume that what you see going on around you has a purpose and contributes to the bigger picture, whether or not you feel privy to the bigger picture.
Maybe to the people following the news, this seems like a ridiculous stance. I understand how looking around and seeing things you don’t like is upsetting. I am certainly not immune. But I do know that I can manage my perspective to choose those thoughts and ideas that feel best to me. I do know I can decide how much grief or struggle I will expose myself to on a daily basis. I do know that whenever things get tough, there call for improvement (and hence the energy in that direction) intensifies. I do know there is every bit as much good in the world as bad. And I know I have the choice of what I focus upon.
Do whatever you can–whatever you must, really–to stay solid, grounded and well this coming week. Expect that some folks may struggle and of course, extend your compassion and loving energy in their direction when you see it. But don’t get on that oh-my-God-the-world-is-scary train, because it’s hard to get off and it’s not going anywhere you want to go, anyway.
Are you feeling steady, grounded and safe? What might you do to enhance that?
Be well, friends! And if you need a little reorienting, feel free to holler at me for a one-on-one.