I wanted to give you all something special in the dailies for Valentine’s Day—and please hear me out if you find it a wretched holiday. I get it. People hate a reminder, of what it feels like they do not have. So I took that into account when pulling cards.
This mini-spread-on-the-spot is (left to right), the love we have, the love we want, and how to get it.
Hanged Man, as the love we have: Each of us no doubt has some “invisible love” in our daily lives. This is affection we don’t have to seek or to earn. We have family, we have friends, we have kitty cats or dogs or whomever, the souls who show up time and time again somewhere or other in our lives and act in a loving way. We have the universal, spiritual love of our fellow human beings, or the divine if your belief system is so inclined to acknowledge such a current. This is the love we may not notice, tears of strangers upon hearing of another’s pain. We may discount this type as meaningless since it isn’t what we’re looking for. But think of how much the world would suck if this love didn’t exist! And remember not only how much of this you have, but how much you give. It’s worthwhile. Acknowledging it directly amps up the vibration of love in your life overall, makes the world a better place and certainly cannot do anything but good. You can easily add self-love into this category.
Don’t you feel just a little better already?
Reversed Two of Pentacles, as the love we want: We don’t want to have to worry…no hiding parts of the self. We look for comfort that we are “okay” on the days we feel anything but. We look into another’s eyes for confirmation of our worth when we are not so convinced ourselves. We want promises and guarantees and someone with whom to share our load. We want to exhale! The trick about this love it cannot ever be complete. We can get genuine promises, but there are never valid guarantees between mortals. People can die without our permission. We may find those who accept and value us as we are, who may share our load, but they cannot carry the entirety of our self-esteem. They can only support us as we seek to more fully treasure ourselves. Self-worth is an inside job.
It’s true, damnit!
Knight of Cups, as how to get it: Putting aside the imagery of this young Casanova wannabe, he’s onto something. The Knight of Cups drinks fully and completely of every moment. He allows himself (and okay, his date) to become vulnerable in doing so. To open yourself up to love, you have to put yourself at risk for pain! Communicating affection opens up the possibility of rejection. Allowing someone in means you could hurt–perhaps a lot–when they are no longer there. It’s the great paradox of the heart: you cannot have love if you’re not willing to risk losing it. The fact that it’s something given freely (and with risk), lasting however long it does, is part of what makes it so incredibly precious.
FEEL the love in your life that you don’t have to seek, and give of that brand of love freely. Manage your own self-image, but allow those willing to support you in seeing your true value to do so. But no matter what, absolutely, positively allow yourself the risk to feel. Without that, you miss not only the hardest, but also the most rewarding part of life. Isn’t feeling what being human is?
I love you guys! ♥
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|The Housewives Tarot |
by Paul Kepple
P.S. With a Full moon in Leo, it might be an excellent time to let go of anything getting in the way of loving yourself!