Sometimes, losing control is the best thing that could have ever happened.
In fact, I’ll double down on that: 1. “Control” is temporary at best, anyway, and 2. Always, letting go of (the illusion of) control is a good idea.
The relationship that’s sinking, or the job that’s disappearing, the kid that’s spiraling…whatever battle that it feels like you’re losing?
Ask yourself: what if this is really okay? What if this is making room for something that works better?
And maybe you won’t know what’s coming to replace “it.” But disintegration is a clear sign change is underway. Nothing breaks down without reason–or replacement.
Every single time I’ve felt the panic of knowing I no longer had a situation in hand (and there have been many because I’m old!), it’s made way for something that is a better fit for where I was at the time. Without exception. It may be growth or healing or understanding or a totally new paradigm of some sort. But it’s always been important.
I won’t say it’s always fast. I won’t say it’s always easy. But it’s always been meaningful, and that’s enough.
Change can be disruptive, especially if we want to cling (and all of us do sometimes). We want to see the full path to the other side because it can be scary. We want reassurance when the Universe invariably shows only the next step or two.
Be okay with just seeing the next step or two. If you’re plugged in, that next step will be inspired and it will take you exactly where you want to go, even if you have no idea how.
So no matter where you are: if something in your life feels like it’s slipping out of your grasp, take heart. That is the feeling of the decks being cleared to make way for a little “life redecorating.”
Next Week’s Tarot
The reversed Emperor is suggesting that the world feels slightly out of control–not necessarily (or just) the world at large, but our personal worlds as well. This isn’t a great surprise with Mercury prepping to go retrograde in a couple of days. But it is an emphasis: if it feels what’s important to you is not quite within your realm of control, that’s because it’s not.
As if it ever really is…
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It doesn’t really matter, though.
The Six of Cups advise us to trust, just as the children do. Be pure of heart and expect the Universe to work out what needs to be worked out. Maybe that seems naive to some, but to me? It’s as clear and sure as the sun coming up without my personal intervention.
Six of Cups advice: Trust. Take a break from trying to make the world spin just so. Relax and restore yourself. Exhale. Be pure of heart and generous. Prioritize kindness over winning. Let go and let be.
I realize this advice is easier to give than to take because I do both. But once you start letting go of the fear-driven drive to control, life starts getting easier. Once you begin leading more with your heart, doors open and paths clear. Life begins to work in ways you never could have orchestrated through the force of will.
So let go. Allow others to control themselves. You control yourself. Lead with your heart and let the Universe do its own part.
Are you feeling the change afoot?
If you’re looking for a little shoring up on any of the above (or anything else), give me a holler for a one-on-one session and we’ll talk.