This makes me think of Captain Virgo. We’ve been married 23 years now. That’s the age I was when we married up, 23. He’s been with me when I was fat, when I was thin, and everything in between. Through ebbs and flows, happy and sad, easy and hard times, it’s always been the the two of us.
One thing that’s been consistent (beyond the change) however, is the attitude of acceptance.
People ask me with some regularity, how he feels about being married to a Tarot reader.
And see, this hasn’t been an issue. One thing we have in common is absolute respect for one another’s right to determine our own course. I don’t try to change him. He doesn’t try to change me. We walk side-by-side, not in lockstep.
Those around you? Choose them based on who they ARE, love them (or not) based on who they are, not who you might imagine they could be. That is your true community. If you are trying to change somebody else, you don’t really accept them at all, you know?
Loving as-is is a very powerful act. It enhances the light of both giver and receiver. It makes the relationship more than it was before, more than a sum of individual parts. I don’t care if you think you know better or if you could come up with some improvements (I’m looking at you, Virgo!), or if you have some “constructive criticism.”
Either accept or let go, stay or leave, it’s up to you. But if we’re talking about love, do it real to do it right. Anything else is just play-acting.
What’s your experience with unconditional love?
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