Here’s a core truth about romance that only somebody like a Tarot reader could tell you: Everybody gets EXACTLY the right partner at the right time.
I’m not talking soul mates, twin flames, past life connections or whatever the fluffy, romantic phrase du jour. I don’t know diddly about that hoopla! I just know what I see, over and over and over again.
You get exactly the relationship you need…but not necessarily to be happy.
The person who has the biggest and most important lessons for your development? THAT is the person you will be drawn to like a moth to flame. Everybody gets a partner custom-tailored to teach. Every relationship, we serve as both teacher and student.
Maybe your partner will be perfectly suited to push every button you have; maybe your partner will provide a mirror for you to look into. Maybe your partner will highlight your weaknesses with a flood light and fog horns, or maybe your partner outlines strengths you are unaware of possessing.
Whether we label it good, bad or indifferent from a subjective standpoint matters not. Without exception, your romantic partner will bring out of you what you need to know about you.
Now I’m not saying everybody “deserves” what they get. Not at all! I’m postulating intricate patterns of fate drawing people together, creating a classroom that is bigger than we can easily perceive.
Some people–the damn lucky ones–get to keep learning (and teaching) alongside the same partner for many years. Some do not. If you are with someone, either both will stand still, both will move forward or the relationship will implode. It’s a joint proposition.
The happiness part? Well, that’s your responsibility.
It’s the same thing I say about all Tarot (or spiritual) work: all roads lead home.
Do you find this to be true?
Dixie, this is so brilliantly true. Maybe the guy who hurt you the worst was meant to teach you how to cherish the one that eventually comes along and isn’t exactly perfect but loves you faithfully. There are tons of scenarios. But, the best part of all you said is noting how a person is responsible for their own happiness. Yes.
I’m a multiple Libra with a Pisces moon which means for a very long time I waited and pined for Prince Charming to come and save me from it all. Once I learned that I could do it on my own, it sure freed up a lot of energy to focus on building a real-life relationship which in the end is much MUCH better than some wishy washy co-dependent fairy tale in the first place.