“I’m sorry, but I have no idea what you’re talking about.” Oh my God! It’s the moment every reader dreads.
It’s also the moment every single reader will face, if you do this work long enough. I don’t care who you are. Nobody’s above it. No-bod-y. It can come any time, but I suspect it’s a touch more likely if your head begins outgrowing your hat, you know what I mean?
For me, a hot flash runs down my body and my stomach starts to gets tangled–somewhere around the third chakra, now that I think about it. It’s an awful, awful feeling.
It’s also incredibly humbling, oh-so-human, and without a doubt, part of the gig.
Who knows why? There will always be some people you simply cannot read, for whatever the reason. And even for those that you can connect to, there will be some circumstances where it simply doesn’t work. Maybe it’s the reader, maybe it’s the questioner, maybe it’s the chemistry, maybe it’s not the right time for a reading or maybe it’s something else entirely and who the Hell knows?
I don’t think many realize the absolute leap of faith it takes, to start flipping over cards and running your mouth. Because even when you KNOW it, it’s not YOU who knows it. Readers are not the source of information, they are a channel. For me, getting access to “the good stuff” comes via grace without exception.
When that grace doesn’t arrive, I recommend accepting it gracefully. Sometimes you can regroup and pull a reading out but other times, it just ain’t gonna happen and one had best accept that reality.
To put in in perspective, I believe we get WHAT we are supposed to get WHEN we supposed to get it. If someone needs insight, I am not so arrogant to assume I’m the only potential channel! And if I’m not able to provide insight, I assume there is a reason. I look for a lesson for myself if I can find one, but don’t freak if I don’t see it. Maybe I’ll be given understanding or maybe I won’t, but it really doesn’t matter.
Because all those readings I do? They are not about me.
But even so, I really, really, really appreciate clients who are kind about it. Thank GOD it doesn’t happen often.
Do you have any readings gone awry stories?
“When that grace doesn’t arrive, I recommend accepting it gracefully.” I love how you put that.
“Maybe I’ll be given understanding or maybe I won’t, but it really doesn’t matter.”
I watched the story of a woman not so long ago, sometime in the past year… Something horrible had happened to her, then another horrible thing, and then more. Somewhere along the way, she gave up trying to make sense of it all. She said, and it stayed with me, that she had come to this conclusion: “I don’t understand, and I don’t need to understand.” And with this she came to a place of peace.
Every so often, in the midst of yet another of my own “I don’t understand” moments, the image of her, and her words, flash back: “I don’t understand, and I don’t need to understand.” And I let “it” go… and move on…
That describes a very deep and fundamental faith, that attitude right there…