Anytime I find myself saying the same thing several times in readings within a brief time span, I take notice. Because that always means there’s something there I need to pay attention to there, y’know? My 3-times rule gets triggered.
So it was: If you want others to value you more, value YOURSELF more. It never works the other way around.
I consider myself generous with my energy. I write the Everyday Tarot plus assorted other sundries, I correspond with site visitors and clients, I offer support on various online forums, I give advice to my web folks, I do educational videos, I maintain a Low Carb support community on Facebook, and sometimes even try to show up for family and friends. I work 7 days a week and very, very hard. Virgo tends to, you know.
I’m not trying to toot my own horn or anything. But the point is, I give freely and from the heart. And I find those times when someone complains about how I don’t meet their expectations with what I give, how I don’t give enough or the right way, I can start to feel pulled under. Firstly, because I literally don’t know HOW to give more than I do, but even more, because I LISTEN and take that criticism in. I may feel I have to prove myself one way or a dozen; I may question myself or doubt myself or just feel not up to the job anymore.
Receiving a certain degree of complaints is a function of the number of people I interact with, I realize. There is always going to be a squeaky, maybe even wobbly wheel! But I cannot take the squeaking wheels to heart, no matter who it is. I have to realize that many of the people who may be touched by what I put out there I may never even know exist, let alone meet. That doesn’t change a damn thing.
The moral here isn’t to give more or better. The moral is to place a high enough value on your own energy, be convinced enough of the quality of what you do put out there, that you can utterly disregard those who don’t value it. They become non-relevant. It ceases being my problem or your problem and becomes their problem–one they can solve or ignore on their own.
If you go through your life not quite sure if you’re good enough, you will ALWAYS find someone to confirm that fear. On the other hand, if you go through your life knowing that you’re contributing something of worth, you’ll also ALWAYS get your confirmation of that conviction as well. We attract what vibrates within us.
The more you value yourself, the more others value you. That’s on my radar right now.
How do you perceive your own value?